Worry.

 

Why worry? “Don’t worry, be happy.” Okay how? Think about all the good things in your life, oh okay….YEARS LATER…All you do is think about the good in your life, you think this that the other stuff too, no, I just am focusing on being happy, no you need to change, person starts focusing on the things others’ wants them to. Cycle continues. In psychology, rumination typically involves overthinking about past events, problems, and/or concerns. We do this until the Cognitive preoccupation with potential of these past events, problems and/or concerns are constantly on our minds. Our minds are constantly on the past event, problem, and concern. We cannot think of it any other way. But if we were to focus on the good, where would that take us?

 Be Great,

   Stephanie

Love.

 

This word will have everyone scratching their damn head. WTF does this look like. My honest answer, after years and years, it looks like presence. It looks like an awareness that you are here and I am here, we are in this moment right now together. No one else, your connection to you and my connection to me comes together for a spark of something that no one can describe. What is that? What does that look like? The very understanding that I revere in the you that is you. The heartfelt kiss, or the laugh that melts pain away. To realize that in the moment of being in love, there is no other for which you would search. Because you are my now. I revere in myself when the memory of you comes, then I cannot even see you because I feel it so.

 

Be Great,

   Stephanie

Trust.

 

Accountability, Vulnerability, Harmony, Cooperation, Sharing and Appreciation. To be in a space where these principles are realized in every moment of time. How do you do it with so much going on, in the world, better yet in the mind? You open your heart to understanding more, you feel for yourself. You understand. If chemistry is energy, where does the energy go, how is it leaving you, in fear and doubt or with love and joy? Notice these things and trust every essence that fills you. Love with all the vulnerabilities you can stand for now and allow the flow of life’s experiences to come and teach you. Moment by Moment. Trust encompasses love like no other. To trust the very intuition of oneself to be able to feel the truest love of them all. To trust that the good you see in someone is a glimpse of their soul calling and them answering. To be part of that growth, to watch the one soul in the world that you know found you and you found it, is one of the greatest joys life can experience. I love you to the ends of the earth, to every situation that my soul encompasses, I will know that through you I saw myself with more clarity, and harmony, cooperation, sharing and reverence for Life.
 

Be Great,
   Stephanie

Logic.

 

Is a kill switch for women, in no way am I to ever think because someone told me no, that this is the way it should be! I want it my way. It has always been that way, and no one should ever be able to change it. Men just see it for what it is. Men see the things of the world as it is what it is on a moment-by-moment basis. They do not see it change or see it having to change, it is. Being in a sense of a word. The things of this world that are logically not under our control should not be focused on to the point that your own well-being is not aligned with you, but choosing to see it would be logical, choosing to feel it is emotional. The play between the two can be tricky. Our relationships give us more clarity. I think even more so when we realize the work of our own. That we are to give freely in our essence so that we can heal each other.

 

 Be Great,

   Stephanie

Foundations of growth.

 

Men are from Mars, Women from Venus? That is how it goes. Who has it easiest? Neither, you see, Men have emotions, Women just have the disadvantaged of feeling them more. We feel, while men think logically. What will work? But who has it easiest. My analytical mind is always running, to understand and make sense of something. How does it work? Well in the past 14 years I have come to realize more about myself through relationships more than anything else. In relation to everything. How I view myself, my kids, my mom, my dad, everyone, it stills me. When then putting this all into a perspective of living with someone of my opposite sex, a Male, I have realized that specifics of the general aspects of our relationship are clear, if you choose to see them.

Be Great,
   Stephanie